Back then it was very hard to get married and in some instances absolutely illegal. But thank’s to the 21st century that has all changed so now we can have exceptional weddings of multi cultures combined.
Weddings are amazing, the promise of love, dancing and great food. This doesn’t just celebrate the couple coming together but also their families. Attending a multicultural wedding is a lot of fun and we are so diverse in South Africa with so many cultures and languages. And with the ease of travelling overseas more and more people are broadening the scope of marring out of country.
So let’s look at a few things you can do for your wedding.
You might be Xhosa speaking and your spouse French, so you do have two options here, either send invitations to specific guests in their language or have bilingual invitations, these are fun for your guests as they already start feeling part of the multi cultural experience they will get at your wedding.
Choose local flowers that represent both parties heritage, if you can’t find specific flowers that represent one party’s culture, then think of incorporating colour schemes representing your partners or your own heritage. The same applies to your dress or suit. You can incorporate elements of both cultures to a dress or suit. A fun idea is to have a swop, you wear your partner’s cultural attire and vice versa.
Not everyone at your wedding would be able to speak the first language of your partner, it doesn’t matter what language. So having an officiant speaking both languages for the ceremony is a good idea but sometimes you can’t find one depending on what the two languages are. So either have a family member that can interpret everything the officiant says, keep the ceremony short as now it is double the time to have it in both languages. The majority of people can speak English so perhaps have your ceremony in English but your vows in you native language. Or perhaps you can say your vows in your partner’s native language.
Every culture has their own wedding traditions, some couples opt for one but why not mix them, choose certain traditions of each culture and combine them accordingly as every tradition has a meaning and you don’t want a contradiction at any point. Even when it comes to the food, each culture has their own traditional food, some foods you really should just not mix but i personally love trying new things, so who cares if you don’t have a specific theme to your catering, everyone will love eating something they know and perhaps a new dish they have never heard about.
Even in a non multicultural setting this is always a thinker about who sits where as you don’t want any drama. You want to now think of the fluency of your guests but it is fun to mix them up as it can make for great conversations and buzz at the reception.
Every culture has their preference of music and dance so getting a good DJ that understands this is a plus point. Your DJ can mix it up between playing songs from both cultures and throw in some international music that both cultures can relate to.
Similar to the ceremony is to have an interpreter or you can surprise your guests, if you can learn to thank your guests in your partner’s native language to thank them for being there they will appreciate the effort you have put in especially if you have never spoken the language.
Travel costs, visas and other international hurdles may prevent you from having your multicultural wedding and that means in some cases that a wedding turns into weddings.
Multicultural weddings are fun and amazing but you don’t have to kill yourself to incorporate everything, there is no right or wrong here. Whatever works for you and your families is always the best.
Did you have a multi cultural wedding?
Or busy planning one?
Let us know what you did or what you are planning.